The Hampshire Sexperts

Welcome to the Hampshire College Sexperts Blog!

This here is a forum for YOU, dear community member, to ask any and all questions you may have about sex, sexuality, relationships, sex...
Submit your questions (anonymously or not) whenever you want! They'll be answered as soon as possible by the Hampshire College Sexperts.

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The Sexperts are a group of peer educators, not medical professionals. While we'll always answer questions to the best of our ability, we'll also be honest in recommending professional advice when we feel it's appropriate.

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Only one antibiotic is shown to make hormonal birth control less effective. That is rifampin, a special medication used to treat tuberculosis. The brand names for rifampin include Rifadin and Rimactane. Other antibiotics do not make hormonal birth control less effective.

From Planned Parenthood’s response to “Will the morning-after pill work if I’m taking antibiotics?” Excellent answer to a question we hear a lot.

Wondering which medications do affect birth control effectiveness? We’ve got a new Provider Perspective about that.

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Sexuality, too, is fluid, and many people seem to struggle with this, to the point of being actively repulsed and confused by the idea that sexual orientation does not necessarily remain consistent throughout someone’s life. This attitude is harmful for those who do experience shifts in their sexual orientations, but it also stifles conversation and exploration, as people who may be confused about their sexuality who receive this kind of messaging may experience harm that takes years to undo—and in some cases, they may never recover, because they are never given an opportunity to learn who they are and be themselves.

Take, for example, the heterosexual woman who later develops an attraction to women, and begins to identify as bisexual or lesbian. She may have experienced this attraction throughout her life and not picked up on it—perhaps she didn’t meet the right woman, or she was living in a repressive environment where homosexuality was not accepted. Or maybe her sexual orientation actively shifted. The attitudes of those around her will be dismissive and unpleasant, as people attempt to erase both her past as a heterosexual and her present as a gay or bi woman.

Though her sexuality has shifted, she remains fundamentally the same woman. Her past history doesn’t magically vanish, and she may even look back on it with fondness or gratitude for the relationships she had. Likewise, people may move through other sexual orientations depending on circumstances, their current stage of life, and other factors; the asexual who later realizes he’s gay, the lesbian woman who develops a bisexual attraction.

Yes, Sexuality Changes, and Yes, That Is Okay | this ain’t livin’  (via posypup)

I really like this! Sexuality (and gender in my opinion) can be very fluid depending on so many factors. Biggest point I want to make though: never deny someone’s sexual identity.

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Asker Anonymous Asks:
How do I discuss abortion in a gender neutral way? I don't want to be hurtful when I talk about abortion.
thehampshiresexperts thehampshiresexperts Said:


Thanks for asking!

Problem Language: Woman/Women  
Gender Neutral Language: Person/People 
Sentence: “I support a person’s right to choose.” - “People having on demand access to abortion in crucial.”

Problem Language: Pregnant Women/Woman
Gender Neutral Language: Pregnant Person/People
Sentence: “A pregnant person is most likely to abort in the first trimester.” - “Unsafe abortion is a leading killer of pregnant people.”

Problem Language: Woman/Women
Gender Neutral Language: Person/People who can become pregnant.
Sentence: “A person who can become pregnant should be able to seek reproductive health services without laws or stigma getting in the way.” - “Over 3/4 of people who can become pregnant do not have an abortion provider in their county.”

Problem Language: Woman/Women
Gender Neutral Language: Person/People this issue affects.
Sentence: “1 in 3 people this issue affects will have an abortion by age 40.” - “A person this issue affects may have difficulty affording an abortion.”

Problem Language: Mother 
Gender Neutral Language: Pregnant Person/Parent
Sentence: “The chance of the pregnant person feeling regret after an abortion is actually statistically low.” - “The parent decided to terminate the pregnancy to take better care of their existing child.”

I did not include “People with uteruses” or “Person with a uterus” due to trans and Non-binary people telling me they find it triggering and reducing them to body parts. There’s plenty of alternatives, so let’s make our spaces safe and comfortable for everyone. 

This should make it extremely clear what language to use and how to use it. If I have forgotten something or I am suggesting problematic language please let me know and I’ll make alterations. 

this is a great reminder! we always support using gender-sensitive language.


April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month

On average, there are 237,868 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year. April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM), during which activists from all over the nation seek to raise awareness about sexual violence and educate individuals and communities about how to end it. This effort requires many voices – including yours! There are several ways you can get involved, and here are just a few:

If you or someone you know has been a victim of sexual assault and you need someone to talk to, contact loveisrespect 24/7 at 1-866-331-9474 or chat online at It’s free, anonymous, and confidential.

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Asker Anonymous Asks:
I'm on my period... my period seems to cease flowing in the shower... can I have shower sex without blood?
thehampshiresexperts thehampshiresexperts Said:

Your flow stops and starts at various points during the day, so it’s possible that the times you aren’t bleeding coincide with the times you’re in the shower - however, what’s more likely is that you just aren’t noticing the bleeding as much because it’s going down the drain.

You can definitely try to have shower sex and hope for minimal blood, but we’re guessing that whenever you have penetrative sex during your period, blood will happen.

If you want to have sex during your period, doing it in the shower is probably the most mess-free way, but there still might be a mess.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Is masturbation gay or something else
thehampshiresexperts thehampshiresexperts Said:

something else

we’re having a screening next thursday! click the link for more info

Asker Anonymous Asks:
When I do kegel exercises it feels really good, as if I was rubbing my clitoris. Not that I'm complaining, it's awesome, but I was just wondering if this happens to other people as well?
thehampshiresexperts thehampshiresexperts Said:

YES! It does. And also, sometimes it doesn’t. Everybody experiences different sensations when physically stimulated by kegels (or anything else). The clitoris also extends way farther back into your body than you might realize — so it might make sense that the muscles you activate when doing kegel exercises are somehow related or connected. Here’s a diagram of what a full clitoris actually looks like!


Asker Anonymous Asks:
How can i fit a pumpkin in my butt?
thehampshiresexperts thehampshiresexperts Said:
  • do not
Asker Anonymous Asks:
hey! I'm a 19 y/o cis girl and my orgasms are always wayyyy too intense. The buildup is always very pleasurable, but regardless of technique and how I get off, whenever I cum it feels like a kind of pleasure that's so intense it's almost like pain. I almost always have to stop before I feel like I've finished, and I can't be touched around my labia for a few minutes afterwards. I never feel entirely satisfied after I cum because of this. How can I lessen the intensity of my orgasms?
thehampshiresexperts thehampshiresexperts Said:

Wait……this is me. Not as in I literally wrote this, but the same thing happens to me. (-a very cool and pretty Sexpert)

Okay, I’ve heard a few people describe this phenomenon now. So I’m convinced it’s a “thing.” A normal thing.

Anyone who has experienced this can tell you that it’s very annoying. But it doesn’t mean you can’t have satisfying sex. Getting personal for a moment: usually after I have one orgasm, I am very very sensitive and don’t feel quite done, so I veeerrrry gently begin to stimulate myself again and have another orgasm or three from a much softer touch and then collapse and have a rad nap.

I’ve learned to embrace it in some ways. For one thing, I imagine it can be fun for my partner to see me cum multiple times and to play with the intensity of what we’re doing. I do have to be vocal about what I need them to do at that moment, but hey, that’s never a bad thing.

I’ll definitely do some more research, but for now, try using a much, much gentler touch to try to have a second orgasm. A vibrator on the lowest setting should do the trick. And if not, you’re not alone <3