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We want to stress that when engaging in anal play it is important to treat it as seriously and carefully as painting a porcelain doll, make sure to use a loooot of lube. It may be helpful to use anal plugs/anal beads of different sizes to help stretch and relax the anus itself. A tiny bit of blood is not necessarily a cause for concern but is indicative of a need to be a little gentler.
As a side note, it’s important to keep in mind the importance of using barrier methods when there is a risk of skin tearing and an exchange of bodily fluids.
A good site is: Go Ask Alice
Also, heres a really great comic from Oh Joy Sex Toy!
First off all, it’s totally fine if you don’t experience orgasm! Relax and enjoy the journey instead of seeing the journey as a means to an end! Don’t get frustrated with yourself!
Here are some things you could try out:
Again! It’s about the journey, not the destination and perhaps if you focus more on the journey you’ll actually wind up at the destination!
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We can’t think of a single word for this, but you could say “heteronormative assumptions” if that’s appropriate, or “incorrect assumptions about sexuality” - if you can think of a better way to say it, we would love to hear it!
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One good way to tell where bleeding comes from is the color of the blood. Bright bright red usually means that it is coming from the vagina or vaginal opening. Darker, maybe with some brown colors, type of blood usually means period blood. Hopefully this can help you discern between the two. I wouldn’t be concerned about the period blood but the bright red could be a few things.
The bright red could be a tear somewhere in the vagina. If the penis was larger than you were used to, I would say it could have made you nervous and possibly muscles clenched a bit during activity. The best way to remedy this is to refrain from sexual activity for a week to allow healing. Then, next time sexual activity occurs, use lots of lube (water or silicone based!) and take things slowly so you can be relaxed.